How Do You Really Feel?

Dancers, you are your own breed. You are little machines that always “go,” no matter what. You know the show must go on and so you study, practice, and prepare for the performance that sets you apart from others. But what happens to you along the way, may be detrimental to your inner self. It’s true that dancing makes us feel better by lifting our spirits and gets our bodies in shape like nothing else. However, when one wants to become a ballroom dancer extraordinaire, how we feel internally, can make all the difference in the world.

We have taken a phrase, “How are you?” to be matter of fact and for the most part, people don’t really want to know how you are anyway. But how you are and feel have a lot to do with how well you will dance in your lifetime and even be successful at it. Most of us say, “I’m fine.” But “are we really, fine?” Nobody wants to be boring or a burden to others, so we constantly say, “we are alright, to just fit in.” It’s become somewhat of a ritual to stuff our feelings down and carry on as usual. Dancers, if you are tired, stressed, angry, depressed, afraid, doubting your abilities, worried and so on, it will catch up with you and affect you in life. How you feel matters and your emotions are there for a purpose – to guide you! Blaming is a useless game, so it all comes down to you. You, and you alone, need to find ways to power through. Find outlets and develop inner strengths.

Even if it feels weird, try smiling, even when you don’t want to. You’ll find that you can attract new energy into your line of vision. Watch the world respond approvingly, as you smile. Of course, you smile when you dance – so carry that with you on a daily basis. Stop and smell the roses. This means, break your routines, once in a while, and enjoy nature. Take deep breaths often, as it will center you and release endorphins that will calm you down. Say how you feel both to yourself and others – that’s a big one! Develop new hobbies. Go places you normally don’t go to. Often times, turning to a special friend, that actually cares and wants to know, “how you really feel,” may be what you need to feel renewed.

Will these small hints fix all of your problems, maybe not, but they can help alleviate the pressure. I have found in life, no matter, how big the problem, it eventually fades away and it’s on to the next obstacle in life that needs attention. Lucky you, you’ve got skills – you can dance it out!

**We have received contributions from individuals who would like to have a dear relative or friend who passed on remembered that loved to dance or was a dance aficionado. We call these memorial contributions. Perhaps you would like to have someone memorialized in this manner. Make a donation and give us their name. We will soon put on our website a yellow brick road to add their name to a brick as a memorial to that person. This contribution will assist future generations of dancers and help keep young people more positive and healthy.

Thought Of The Week:

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.


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Shane Meuwissen is the Media Specialist for Fordney Foundation.  He is a former dance instructor who know works with his company Slow Motion Dance Videos capture the beauty of dancing. If you would like to learn more about Shane and his video work, visit his website